Meaty Monday: Adoption
Monday, September 29th, 2008The following is a bit of personal news for my “Meaty Monday” post:
For you did not receive a spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received a spirit of adoption. When we cry “Abba! Father!” it is that very Spirit bearing witness with our spirit that we are children of God. Romans 8:15-16
Did you ever stop to think that adoption is one of the primary images in the scriptures for those who come to faith in Christ? The apostle Paul uses this metaphor to help us understand that when we come to faith, we are invited to become part of a much larger family of faith. We are made part of the family of God.
I’ve been thinking a lot about adoption lately. At the end of last year, Lori and I began giving serious thought and prayer to pursuing adopting a child internationally, as a way of raising our own family. For a variety of reasons we eventually settled on pursuing adoption from Ethiopia, a country located in East Africa.
Adoption is both a lengthy and expensive process. In May, we took part in a two day long pre-adoption seminar to learn more about the various issues and concerns related to adoption and just what exactly the process entails. Over the summer months we have been working with a social worker from our adoption agency to complete a home study.
The good news is that we have been “home study approved.” Part of our home study process, for us, entailed making a decision as to the age and number of children we would be willing to adopt. After a lot of thought and study, we finally settled on being open to adopt a young sibling group, with the possibility of perhaps adopting twins.
We are now beginning to prepare all the necessary documents that need to be submitted to Ethiopia. Following that comes a period of waiting for a referral that may last anywhere from 6 to 9 months, perhaps a bit longer. Once we receive a referral from the country, Lori and I will travel to Ethiopia to accept our new child(ren) into our family.
We are both excited and a little apprehensive about this very big step in our lives. While it is daunting to consider the prospect of parenting as a trans-cultural, trans-racial family, we also anticipate the various challenges, joys, and rewards that come as part of raising any family.
As I think about the process of adoption, I am encouraged by the words Actress Isabella Rosellini, who adopted a son who was part African-American, wrote in her autobiography:
In comparison to having a biological child…adoption carries the added dimension of connection not only to your own tribe but beyond, widening the scope of what constitutes love, ties, and family. It is a larger embrace.
I think that’s partly what the Apostle Paul was trying to say to us as well. When we are adopted by God into the community of faith our connection and identity moves beyond the family we grew up in. The circle of our family is widened to include connections beyond our own tribe, to include the embrace of the much larger and greater family of faith.