It seems that my recent Meaty Monday issues have raised more questions than answers. Well, today’s post happens to be no exception:
Recently, we’ve been struggling trying to figure out what youth ministry should look like in our congregation. Not just in our church but in churches across the country, I get the sense that we’re operating in crisis mode when it comes to the church and our youth. We know we’re losing them, but we don’t know exactly why nor do we know what to do about it.
To provide a little context our church currently has 94 members. As far as kids are concerned: we have a handful of middle school/senior high youth and then a huge number of elementary kids (a huge number for a church our size anyway….) For purposes of this conversation, I want to limit my consideration to the middle school/senior high age range. Here are some issues particular to small congregations such as ours:
1.) Generating a critical mass. When only one or two kids show up to something, whether its an event or a Sunday School class, it makes it very difficult to keep interest up. One kid shows up but his friend doesn’t. The second time the other kid shows up but his friend doesn’t. The third time neither shows up because they don’t want to be there alone. It can be difficult and often becomes a catch 22 situation to get the ball rolling.
2.) Who does youth ministry? We’re not large enough nor do we have enough resources to hire someone - even part time - to do youth ministry and to connect with kids in the way that we really should connect to them. As a solo pastor, I certainly don’t have the time nor the energy to ‘do’ youth ministry in the way that it should really be done. Right now, we have a parent volunteer who graciously heads the youth group activities/studies, but that presents its own challenges when their kid is one of the youth.
As I ask around at other churches, it seems there are some systemic issues we all face:
1.) Kids are so much more busy than when I was a kid 20 years ago. They are overbooked with commitments to all their various activities. Events that used to never happen on Sundays and Wednesday nights are now scheduled for those days. When kids do get a Sunday morning off, that turns out to be the only day they can sleep in. No wonder they won’t show up for Sunday School or for Worship.
2.) We’re stuck thinking of youth ministry models that worked when we were kids and we all lived in small towns. For many of us “Youth Group” was simply the place to be. It was the place were we gathered socially with other like minded kids. Especially in small towns, it was the primary social outlet. But that’s simply not the case anymore, kids have so many other options than they used to and the peer pressure of ‘youth group’ is just not there like it used to be.
3.) When it comes down to it, I’m not so sure anyone has a clue as to what we are doing in ministry with our kids. Are we trying to keep them entertained and off the streets? Are we trying to impart the truths of our faith and to instruct them about what to believe by doing pure Bible Study? Are we trying to raise kids to be socially aware and responsible by encouraging them to engage in mission and community service? I realize different churches will have different emphases, but as a general rule I suspect most churches haven’t really given serious thought about what the end product should be and if they are doing a good job getting there.
I’d be curious to hear if any of you have encountered these or other issues in your ministry with youth, and if you have found some solutions what have they been? I’d be especially interested to hear of any resources that have formed your thinking about youth ministry and the issues I’ve raised.
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